Building trust in a relationship is one of the most rewarding and difficult things you can do to improve your relationship. It involves both partners being present, being mindful, and being committed to a healthy relationship at all times.
We want you to feel comfortable and confident with each other. Here are Love Tripping’s tips for creating a strong and trusting relationship with your partner.
Talk About Your Day
DO: Reserve time each day to discuss how your day went, who you bumped into, or what your plans are. These conversations should become commonplace, chatted over morning coffee or during a phone call before bed. Sharing your experiences with each other allows you to feel more connected even when you are apart. Check out our Couples Challenge and Strengthen Your Relationship With These Weekly Questions.
DON’T: Become your partners parole officer, asking a million questions about where they were and who they were with. That will likely make them start telling you even less just to avoid the hassle and make you unnecessarily paranoid. This will only lead to decreased trust from both partners.
Keep the Past in the Past
DO: Share experiences that have helped you become the person you are today. Knowing each other’s family or relationship history can help you better understand each other and be more aware of how you may react to certain situations. Childhood experiences or bad past relationships can affect your ability to trust your partner. Let your partner know about these issues so that you can work on them together to build more trust in your relationship moving forward.
DON’T: Go into specifics about previous relationships and sexual history. It is one thing to know how many partners you have each had, but don’t start comparing sexual escapades. Talking about your past sex life can cause your partner to feel insecure and create barriers when you should be able to be your most vulnerable.
Social Media Relationship Rules
DO: Be open about your social media accounts and who you are online. You are in a relationship with the whole person, and what your partner does online is just as important as what they do in real life. Use Social Media to reinforce your relationship and let the world and your partner know how happy you are together. We live in a world of technology and your relationship should be a part of it.
DON’T: Search through your partner’s social media accounts when they leave them open on their phone and go to the bathroom. If they have nothing to hide, your snooping can seriously undermine their trust in you. If you truly believe they are hiding something, snooping is not going to solve these problems. Have a conversation with your partner and be honest with your feelings.
Do What You Say & Say What You Mean
DO: Be honest about who you are. Building trust in a relationship cannot succeed if you are being vague or exaggerating truths. Being upfront and predictable makes your partner feel more at ease and it will make your words more meaningful during conversations. When you always mean what you say your partner is much more likely to really HEAR you when it’s important.
DON’T: Use words like they don’t have meaning. Although your partner may try to forgive and forget, words have a tendency to linger. Just because you were in a fight when you called your partner a name does not mean it doesn’t count.
DO: Keep your relationship strong by embarking on new adventures together. When you can rely on each other to stay captivated by life, you are less likely to seek action elsewhere and become disconnected. Whether your adventure is eating at a new restaurant or skydiving is up to you.
DON’T: Force your partner to do anything they don’t feel comfortable doing. If you coerce them into something they do not want to do, they are less likely to trust you the next time you make a suggestion.
No-One is Always Right
DO: Arguments and disagreements are a normal part of any healthy relationship. Admit when you have made a mistake and apologize. No one is perfect and your partner should appreciate your ability to realize your wrong doings. Knowing you both recognize your mistakes will make it easier for you and your partner to have honest discussions instead of heated arguments.
DON’T: Use apologies against your partner. If they have admitted to being wrong then you should accept it and move on. If you can’t accept the apology it should be discussed until you both feel better about the situation. Gloating about being right can cause your partner to stop admitting any wrongdoing and shut down any future honest conversations.
Distance Makes the Heart Grow Fonder
DO: If you never spend time apart you will never learn to trust your partner. Spend time apart from each other with friends and family. Having personal activities allows you both to feel independent and not reliant on your partner to keep you entertained. Read all about The Importance of Taking Time To Yourself in our recent blog post.
DON’T: Exclude your partner from all your social outings. It may be important to have your own hobbies, but sharing friends, family events, and activities together allows a greater connection between you. Keeping your partner away from your social circle creates unnecessary suspicion.
Building trust is in a relationship takes time, effort, and lots of communication. We want you to be confidant in your relationship, and having trust in each other is the best way to do that. Try out some of these great do’s and don’ts and let us know what else has helped you and your partner build trust in your relationship by Tweeting us @lovetripping or commenting below.