I have been playing video games since I was little goomba when the very first NES was released. Playing video games is a hobby that is near and dear to my heart, and it’s something I hope I get to keep enjoying well into my old age.
Like most millennial males in a relationship you’re eventually going to find yourself in the struggle of balancing your relationship and your video games. It took some trial and error to find a balance that works for us, but now I can enjoy my past time and not worry about feeling like I’m neglecting Katie.
Find Ways to Enjoy Video Games as a Couple
Katie doesn’t really like playing video games herself, but she does enjoy watching me play certain types of games. The key here is to find games that are story driven, Katie likens it to watching a movie. Your partner is not going to be entertained by watching you own noobs in Call of Duty or play hours on end of Madden. However there are plenty of story driven games out there that will be thrilling for whoever is playing or watching. Some great examples of games we’ve enjoyed together are Uncharted, the Batman Arkham series, or any of the Zelda games.
You can also try getting your partner involved in actually playing the game by finding the right type of games to play together. We just finished playing a great little game called Brothers: A Tale of Two Sons. The controls are super simple, the whole game requires you to work together, and the story is compelling. The Mario Galaxy series lets someone use the second controller to collect little stars and shoot them back at the enemies. Very little skill is required and it’s fun to work together to beat a boss. Ask for help to beat some of the puzzles. There were a few puzzles in Zelda I couldn’t get through without Katie’s help. Making your partner feel like they are invested in winning the game is a fun and easy way to enjoy your hobby together.
Set Some Time Aside for Playing Video Games
Having a sort of a schedule really helps to ensure your hobby isn’t cutting into personal time with your partner. We like to get the gaming out of the way after dinner. On the other end of the scale, set some ground rules for when you should NOT be playing video games. For example Saturday night is date night, no video games, just quality time together.
Finding personal time in your relationship will help you stay more connected as a couple. I like playing some Call of Duty or Madden by myself, and it’s not very exciting for Katie to watch, so I’ll do it later at night before going to bed. Katie will go watch or read something in bed and I’ll put on my headphones and lose myself in an online multiplayer world. Then I’ll crawl into bed when I’m done and we’ll cuddle each other to sleep.
Don’t Disrespect Someone’s Hobby
I’m lucky to be in a relationship with someone that can appreciate video games, but video games are not for everyone. Be mindful of each others differing opinions and be understanding of where they are coming from. Someone isn’t “immature” just because they like playing video games. Maybe your partner “just doesn’t get it” so they dislike video games. Try to help them understand the pleasure and satisfaction you get from playing video games. They don’t have to enjoy them on the same level, but you should help them understand why you like playing them so much.
Be adults about the situation and be respectful. Find that balance that allows both of you to spend time together while still finding time to enjoy getting in some video game time.
Beware The Dangers of Enjoying Games Together Too Much
It’s great to see a couple that can enjoy a hobby together, especially one as engaging as video games. However video games can be addictive, and it’s very possible for a couple to substitute their intimate time in the real world for adventuring in a virtual world. Dungeon crawling and plundering for loot is fine, but it shouldn’t be a substitute for plundering each other in the real world! Make sure to put limits on your gaming time together, and make time for playing with each other.
The Game Within The Game
You like video games. You like sex. Why not make video gaming sexy?! Let your imagination go wild and add a little extra fun to your gaming session. You could try cosplaying and rescuing the princess from Bowser. Or see if you can distract each other with sexy kisses or stripping while playing. If you want to play on hard mode then try to play a level of Super Mario while having sex.
Just because you’re in a relationship doesn’t mean it’s game over for you. By picking the right games to play together, and knowing when to set limits, you can add an extra life to your relationship.