We are so happy to share the love story of Sharlee & Zach. These new parents have learned to use teamwork to get through challenges. Read all about how they met and the advice they would give themselves if they could go back in time.
Sharlee & Zach
Ages: 31 and 35
Status: Married 6 years, together for 7 years
How did you meet?: We met at a game night with mutual friends. The story is actually much cooler than that, though. My husband’s first marriage had ended and his roommate had met me at church and developed a crush(though I didn’t know it). His friend was coming to the game night to hopefully woo me (haha) and he dragged Zach to it with him. Zach didn’t hear my name when introductions were made and the flirting started immediately. The attraction was mutual and we had a few things in common that we just started going back and forth. When introductions were made it was awkward and funny–I was sad that he didn’t know my name because I was flirting. He was feeling HORRIBLE that he started flirting with the girl his buddy liked.
When did you realize you were in love?: Honestly it was pretty mutual. We said we were in love after a couple of months. I was emotional and upset about something and it just came out. It wasn’t the most romantic of moments but we really just fit right away and I was definitely not surprised that I was telling him I loved him.
What qualities in each other make you a good match?: We’re opposites on quite a few things: He’s laid back, I’m not. He’s patient, I’m not. and the list goes on. We really like each other, though! 🙂 We also enjoy some of the same hobbies (some of those things have come as we’ve been together) like shooting, watching Netflix, and of course board games–our loves of games is one of our favorite things. We are a really good team.
What is your perfect date night?: A perfect date night is just time together. I would love to go to dinner and then walk around downtown (or visiting the sites if we are traveling). We love movies so we would want to include that somewhere.
What is the biggest challenge you’ve faced as a couple and how did you get through it?: We’ve had quite a few challenges but one of the biggest has been adjusting to parenthood. We decided that I would quit my job after my daughter was born–which wasn’t something we were 100% financially ready for and that adjustment was really difficult and still is. I’ve never been more grateful for our teamwork as I have been the last 2 years. We continue adjusting the budget, supporting each other in our roles, and dreaming about the future. We may not always see everything eye to eye but in the end our big goals are the same and that brings us together in times of crisis or uncertainty.
What is one thing you would like to improve about your relationship?: I would like us to have more real conversations and add some spontaneity into our relationship.
What advice would you go back and give yourselves when you just started dating?: I would have definitely told us to get married sooner and I would have told me to not take him so seriously. Lots of worries about what other people would think about things made me take him and our relationship far too seriously at times and I think some of those times I became an almost toxic partner–for which I will always be sorry.