Congratulations to Amberly & Joe for becoming Love Tripping’s second Couple of the Week! This weeks amazing couple explains how their differences keep them together and makes their relationship stronger. We are so grateful to have them share their story with us and give us some great advice on how to get through challenges and appreciate each other.
Amberly & Joe
Ages: 26 & 27
Status: Married 4 years, and together 4 1/2 years
How did you meet?: We went to the same high school and had a class together one semester and we lived two blocks away from each other, but we didn’t officially meet until a few years after high school when we were in a young adult scripture study group together. The full story of how we met can be found here, How We Met and here, The Whole Story.
When do you realize you were in love?: It didn’t take very long for me to fall head over heels for Joe. After a few frustrating years in the dating world, stuck playing the dating game, Joe was a breath of fresh air. He made his intentions known and was not afraid to pursue me with no hesitations and I loved that. A few weeks into our relationship, he told me that he loved me. It took me a minute to say it back because I was so surprised to hear it come out of his mouth so soon, but those were definitely feelings that I was feeling too and I was glad that he felt the same way.
What qualities in each other make you a good match?: In our four years of marriage, I’ve learned that it’s our differences that make us the perfect couple and that embracing them rather than just accepting them is what makes us so perfect together. I wrote a post about it here, Embracing Our Differences.
What is your perfect date night?: Both of our love languages are quality time, but with our busy schedules, sometimes it’s hard to come by. Any activity that allows us to spend time with each other makes the perfect date night for us. We love going out to eat, taking long walks or cuddling up on the couch to watch a movie because all of those things are low key activities that allow us to talk and bond and enjoy each other’s company.
What is the biggest challenge you have faced as a couple and how did you get through it?: I would have to say that the last year and a half of our marriage was one big challenge made up of lots of little challenges. We bought and renovated our first home, put me through a few busy semesters of school, experienced a miscarriage, found out that we were pregnant again and just recently welcomed a baby boy into our family. The emotional ups and downs that we faced and the changes that each event brought not only to our individual lives, but to our marriage were difficult but they brought us closer together. I wrote about it here, Growing Together Instead of Apart.
What is one thing you would like to improve about your relationship?: I feel like we are constantly working to improve every aspect of our marriage, even the areas that are our strongest. I set goals every month to help me become a better wife and I involve Joe so that we are both working to improve our relationship together. This year we are working on being more intentional with everything that we do and one of the things that we are really trying to work on is date night. We want to have regular date nights that are planned and scheduled ahead of time instead of just on a whim, “what do you want to do tonight?” type activities. We also want our date nights to be technology free and we are trying to step outside the box instead of always going to our same dinner and a movie.
What advice would you go back and give yourselves when you just started dating?: The one thing that I think I would tell the us of the past is to budget for and take more vacations together. We have been on a couple of big trips with each of our families and gone away for the weekend together quite a few times as well, but we haven’t been on a trip, just the two of us, since our honeymoon. We have actually had one planned since before we got married, but every time we start to budget for it, we find something more practical to save up and spend our money on instead. Now we have a baby and I regret not taking more big trips together while it was easier. We still have a few planned, and we still plan to get away for the weekend twice a year like we always do, but I wish that we would have taken more advantage of the four years that we had together just the two of us.