This weeks Love Tripping Couple of the Week are Chelsea and Ryan. They show us how being equal partners in their relationship and their business makes for a harmonious marriage. Read their awesome post and see why they are our Couple of the Week!
(Note: Chelsea has a strong dislike for capital letters! We all have our quirks!)
Chelsea & Ryan
Status: together for 8, married for 4.5
How did you meet?: we actually had quite a few mutual friends but didn’t cross paths until the end of our sophomore year of college. we met at a friend’s birthday party and proceeded to laugh for the next 5 hours until our sides ached. i wrote about the night that our world’s first collided and we basically became inseparable, but only friends, because he was leaving to study abroad in a few weeks. it was then on our crazy first date where ryan proceeded to tell me he was more interested in looking for a wife and not a casual girlfriend (good thing i had already ordered and was waiting on my food so i didn’t bolt)!
When do you realize you were in love?: from the beginning, we were just very comfortable together. there was no crazy spark but there was this level of openness which neither of us had experienced before and we just felt ‘right’ together. i went to visit him in washington, DC a few months after we started dating and we exchanged ‘i love you’s’ in our nation’s capitol! it’s crazy to think how much deeper our love for each other is 8 years later. it almost seems like back then it wasn’t ‘technically love’ because it’s so much stronger now.
What qualities in each other make you a good match?: we are a good match because we balance each other out very well. ryan is a huge visionary and can come up with 3821 ideas in a single day. i’m very good at putting the details in place to make these big dreams a reality. we actually put our brains together and came up with our newest crazy adventure ‘the map to dreaming big’ (www.themaptodreamingbig.com) by using his idea to be the youngest married couple to speak on all 7 continents, we’ve mapped out our process and are inviting people along the journey to accomplish their own big dream!
it’s also taken years for us to get in the groove of understanding what are our strengths and what are our weaknesses. though we are different in quite a few ways, we share the same core values of giving, traveling, living our best lives, and investing in our relationship.
What is your perfect date night?: this really depends for us! if we are traveling somewhere, then every night on the beaches of thailand is the perfect date night. if we are closer to home, we love a good happy hour in our very foodie city of portland, oregon followed up by a walk along the waterfront to take in the (hopefully not rainy) city!
What is the biggest challenge you have faced as a couple and how did you get through it?: we’ve been through quite a few challenges over the past 8 years together. we’ve moved all over the country, even moved in with my in-laws, both have lost jobs as well as other tough situations. i think most recently it’s been our decision to run a business together that has been the biggest ‘challenge.’ in so many ways it’s amazing to get to spend most of our time together, molding the life we want to live but it’s also been difficult to find the harmony between being life partners and business partners. this is still a journey we are on but we make sure to schedule love days to always make our relationship a priority!
What is one thing you would like to improve about your relationship?: one thing I want to improve about our relationship is how i manifest when i’m stressed. i’ve moved from being a social worker to an entrepreneur and it’s been a total mindset shift. when i get stressed out about this new way of life, it’s often ryan who bears the brunt of my stress so i want to improve in that area.
otherwise, we devote a ton of our time to working on communication and making sure each other feel appreciated!
What advice would you go back and give yourselves when you just started dating?: the advice i would give our younger selves would be to live more in the present and stress less. we stressed over bills, jobs, moving, travel, wedding, family, friends, etc. and it’s always worked out. always. stress less, love more and be present.
Thank you Chelsea & Ryan for your openness and for giving everyone some awesome takeaways!
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