This week we are celebrating the love of Angel and Michelle as our Couple of the Week. They have great advice on balancing their love for adventure with their responsibilities. Their ability to work with each others strengths and weaknesses make them one amazing couple!
Angel & Michelle
Status: Together almost 2 years and currently living together
How did you meet?: Angel likes to say I just showed up at his door one day. We actually met when a mutual friend invited me to a pool party at Angel’s apartment. After that, we went on some dates, we shared our kiss while camping, and finally decided we were a couple after a spontaneous visit to Disneyland.
When did you realize you were in love?: During our Hearst Castle / San Simeon trip, something clicked and I realized that was the moment. I said it, but he didn’t say it back. It wasn’t until a month later that we discussed it and realized, he hadn’t even heard me! We shared our first I love you’s shortly after that.
We knew we were serious about our relationship, and we really committed to each other and a shared goal to travel. We were in Costa Rica, and AngeI, being spontaneous and crazy, wanted to go to Mexico right after our trip. I wasn’t ready to leave our life in California or a job I love, and especially so spontaneously. We decided as a couple it was worth it to wait, to save our money, and make a plan. A year later, we finally are about to take off for a long-term trip.
What qualities in each other make you a good match?: We are very different people. Angel is a constant ball of energy and a daredevil. I require about twice as much sleep, I’m extremely cautious, and my anxiety can drive him mad. Sometimes this leads to arguments, sometimes this leads to fights, but most of the time, we do our best to balance each other out and play on each others strengths and accept each others weaknesses. I’m calm when Angel’s not, and Angel’s calm when I’m not.
What is your perfect date night?: Does it have to be night? Any day that we get to spend outside together is perfect. Even in snow or thunderstorms. Even sharing a dinner out of a not-so-delicious backpackers meal. We are happiest when we can take early morning hikes, set up our tent somewhere remote with a killer view, or find a new activity to try outside.
What is the biggest challenge you’ve faced as a couple and how did you get through it?: We’re still getting through it right now. After a year of spending almost all our free time together, Angel got a new job and was immediately put on a twelve-hour night shift, with a lot of weekends spent working as well. There are pros, like the money we are able to save to travel soon, but it’s mostly cons. We share a car, so on weekdays, we see each other for a handful of minutes every day (to exchange the car keys and a kiss between our jobs). On the weekends, we can barely make plans because there is always the possibility at the very last minute that Angel will be expected to work a Saturday shift. For two people who rely on adventure, it makes it hard to spend time together, hard to plan anything, and occasionally, hard to have a real conversation. We won’t stop being confident it will all work out in the end.
What is one thing you would like to improve about your relationship?: I’ll let Angel take over from here.
There’s always a handful of things to improve, but I wouldn’t say in our relationship. I would say it’s more about self-improvement. I love Michelle for everything she is, but I also love her for everything that she’s not. Plus, we are still learning new great things from each other every time we are on an adventure.
What advice would you go back and give yourselves when you just started dating?: Michelle would say to a younger version of us to just make out already, since you are clearly perfect together!
I would tell myself, “she might not be the first one I travel with, but I want her to be the last one I travel with. So go and get her.”